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Indian Culture: Time to Say Cheers!
Arun Kumar , Hyderabad: May 24 2008
Made Popular May 24 2008
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Watching the news channel yesterday, I was compelled to reflect on the status of women in India. The Arushi murder case, though claimed to be solved by the police, sent wrong signals across the country. I went through several networking sites. All of them were against the labeling of Arushi-Hemraj love as illicit. How can a girl, emotionally dependant on a person much older than her father, be termed as having illicit affair with the person? This instantly reminded me yet another pathetic situation: the cheerleaders controversy, where several ‘moral groups’ were deciding on how should the people dress.
Indian Culture: Time to Say Cheers!

It is surprising why the culture, which gives such lofty status to women, treats them as pearls, has troubles with their men acting lecherously while looking any meagerly clad women, and then charge the women for fault. It is the Indian custom which has given greatest value to women; as well as Indian women have lived up to the expectations plus the respect and admiration they power in the society.

The IPL league initiated with the thought to start the new phenomenon of entertainment in cricket. IPL people expended a lot for making it a grand hit. The association had the purpose to take domestic Indian cricket to global viewers. In the beginning everything was all right, but then the politicians again started to grab the attention as it was done in the case of bar girls. However, in a temporary amnesty, the order to ban the dance bars in Maharashtra has been returned by governor. But the girls are always squeezed between moral policing and regulatory efforts on one hand and extreme poverty, susceptibility to health risks such as HIV/AIDS and sexual exploitation on other hand. The majorities of these women have little occupational skills and are inadequately educated. A few of them might have come into such profession fascinated by glamour of being entertainers and singers.

Cheer-girls are a bit of entertainment or activity package which IPL had promised the audiences countrywide. Group of cheerleaders might have been barred by the politicians to come in cricket matches, but none of the political leaders can dare to challenge the love for western culture in our youth. Group of cheer-girls are liable for criticizing Indian culture and therefore are trapped by the politicians. But I think we should witness such responsive policies when the Bollywood beauties extend obscenity so boldly. Various cheerleaders are not enchanted with the activities of crowd also. These girls may be barred from the game, but the authorities cannot plan to get back our own culture from clutches of ignorance and negligence. These girls might go back to their states but their recognition amongst youth has formed an imprint on impressionable minds of young group. We cannot eliminate obscenity by asking the cheer-girls to go back. We have to instill amongst us what is called Indian Culture.

The politicians, the so called supporters of Indian Morality, made and are still making a big argument over the cheerleaders. They objected on the kind of clothes these cheerleaders wore. But then why do politicians wear khadi? Because it reflects their association with Gandhi. Similarly, these girls were also wearing something that has been associated with games across the world. The kind of gestures which Bipasha or Rakhi Sawant would do in their dance number is fine, because they can see it in the private theatres. Cheer leaders were also performing on large stadiums as well as in front of thousands of people. The cricket matches were being shown on television messing the so called Indian Culture! The advertisements which come on TV, the type of show models, male or female, bathing in pools or anywhere, are they not against Indian Culture? These too are transmitted throughout India. The kind of jokes which come on various laughter shows, they speak directly or use double-talk, which derogates comedy, but such things are in accordance to the Culture because children cannot understand them. I am surprised what these leaders and politicians are upto. They were believed to take care of the welfare of the public who selected them and not expected that same chosen person will take the cheers away from their lives. Rejoicing the woman of substance, it seems is similar to dropping a woman to a substance.

The result of this reflection is as follows: Instead of nagging around and making the women feel guilty, offer sufficient education to them. Lack of sufficient education is the only cause why they have to go for such jobs as bar dancing. Create respectable employment for them. And you yourself learn to continue the tradition where women are respected. Your mom never allowed you to grow out of her lap to look down at other women.

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Sanwali
Shimla, India
Very well written Arun. It’s very rare to get to read such comments from a guy. Especially in the country like India, where maximum number of men shows two-facedness. When talking publically, they show immense respect for the women but at home it’s just somebody to handle their jobs. Be it their mother, wife, sister or the daughter. I hope you not only talk but also implement these thoughts in your life.
There’s nothing wrong with those cheerleaders in the IPL league. Who are these bloody politicians to decide that what is right and what is wrong. How many names do they want me count amongst them who get those girls (called ‘bar dancers’ in their language) to dance with, in their parties and are caught doing all sort of rubbish with them.
The way it’s said that ‘Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’, similarly the dirt also lies in the eyes of the beholder. If the politicians have that dirty look, then that’s their problem. Coz at least I don’t find anything wrong in their dress. We can’t expect them to dance in the sarees there…. Can we?
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@ Sanwali:
AS you said, ”dirt also lies in the eyes of the beholder”, I wonder if they can accpet even if women dance wearing sarees. Thing is when someone cannot accept something, s/he tends to blame others, whereas, truth is that s/he themselves have to change. Time to shed off rigidity from our minds.
And yes, this is the mindset given to me by my mom. I try my best to follow it :)
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Oh my my, guy writing such an article! Really surprising…In fact pleasantly surprising Well written Arun. Read an article in the morning about the Arushi’s murder which said that her father (Rajesh Talwar) has claimed it to be the case of honor killing. I wonder what made Arushi’s father think that his 15 year old daughter could indulge in so-called illicit affair with a man who is so elder to her. Killing your own daughter (If this is so, because till date Noida police has not come to any conclusion as to who is the real culprit), is really not acceptable.

Talking about IPL issue, I completely agree with Sanwali that these politicians are double-faced, oops my mistake, they are multi-faced. They just say what they feel is easier to befool the public. The politicians have the habit of up-roaring in the name of Indian values; however they easily mould them in a way they want to and whenever they want.

I feel really ashamed of this society who holds women and their dresses responsible for distracting men. Aren’t the women in Burqas raped? So guys grow up and accept that it’s the filthy minds and not the dresses of women that are corrupting our so-called culture.
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Sanwali
Shimla, India
Your mom must be a great woman as that reflects in your thought process.

Well! i completely agree with you that the things will automatically change when we will stop being rigid at the mind.
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Vinod
Shimla, India
When will the man made society and men’s do as i say mentality towards women end? Question is too hard, perhaps impossible, to search an answer for. fairer sex has battled long for the equality and is continuing with the same, how long one never knows.

Everything is done in the name of religion, Political gains, for so called honor and god knows what not. But people with such abhorred thinking need renaissance and overhauling of thought.
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I couldn’t agree more about Indians and esp Indian politicians keeping double moral standards! It’s like PETA activists having a sea food party! They completely deny in their action what they promise in words and it’s a real torture to see the young Indians being governed by not even a single young politician. The double standards seen in both the quoted cases will die their own death with time for if there is one thing Indians are good at, it is to make you believe that they have progressed mentally.
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@arun
Providing education to these cheerleaders, bar dancers and for that matter prostitutes is a cause that deserves to be appreciated and enforced seriously. But, are these professions not respectable? C’mon these women are earning their bread by working hard. they aren’t stealing or cheating people out of their money. This brings us back to square one. Why shouldn’t these professions, be it cheer leading, or bar dancing or even prostitution, be respected? Why? Nobody seems to try and answer that! I really hope comes along and clears this lingering doubt of mine!
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@ Jayaprashanth:

I never thought of it. What you say is absolutely true. In fact, every profession, that does not harm others, is respectable. I too, have to change a lot, being part of the Indian Culture since birth. Sincere thanks for pointing out my mistake.
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@ Jayaprashanth:

Your comment forced me to analyse. As per what I know, jobs can be of two types: one that involes fun and the other type which involves money at some personal costs such as health. The latter is taken up by people who have no other option to earn money. People working as prostitutes, those working in mines, and bangle factories, etc have no option but to continue with their lives at stake. What I think, that such jobs can lead to serious troubles with one’s body and soul.

Coming back to the topic, I suppose that bar dancing and prostitution, whether by males or females, is totally a job taken up to avoid unemployment. The per cent of people involved in such jobs for fun is very rare. Given a chance, they would rather go for better oppurtunities. Cheerleading, on the hand, also involves glamor and is yet to become a viable job option in India.

The kind of society where we live, prevailing since ages, will take too long to accept these people on what-is basis. People will definately use their services but respecting them is something we have never been taught.

This is what occured to me. Please do correct me if I am wrong.
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Farheen Jamal
kolkata, India
india is famous for double standrds. cheerleading is one issue but there are severa l others that need attention.
also the media is playing god these days and the right to information is being miss used by them. sombosy needs to chek them out
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