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Sanwali

Sanwali — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Very well written Arun. It’s very rare to get to read such comments from a guy. Especially in the country like India, where maximum number of men shows two-facedness. When talking publically, they show immense respect for the women but at home it’s just somebody to handle their jobs. Be it their mother, wife, sister or the daughter. I hope you not only talk but also implement these thoughts in your life.

There’s nothing wrong with those cheerleaders in the IPL league. Who are these bloody politicians to decide that what is right and what is wrong. How many names do they want me count amongst them who get those girls (called ‘bar dancers’ in their language) to dance with, in their parties and are caught doing all sort of rubbish with them.

The way it’s said that ‘Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’, similarly the dirt also lies in the eyes of the beholder. If the politicians have that dirty look, then that’s their problem. Coz at least I don’t find anything wrong in their dress. We can’t expect them to dance in the sarees there…. Can we?

Arun Kumar

Arun Kumar — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

@ Sanwali:

AS you said, ”dirt also lies in the eyes of the beholder”, I wonder if they can accpet even if women dance wearing sarees. Thing is when someone cannot accept something, s/he tends to blame others, whereas, truth is that s/he themselves have to change. Time to shed off rigidity from our minds.

And yes, this is the mindset given to me by my mom. I try my best to follow it :)

Rajni

Rajni — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Oh my my, guy writing such an article! Really surprising…In fact pleasantly surprising Well written Arun. Read an article in the morning about the Arushi’s murder which said that her father (Rajesh Talwar) has claimed it to be the case of honor killing. I wonder what made Arushi’s father think that his 15 year old daughter could indulge in so-called illicit affair with a man who is so elder to her. Killing your own daughter (If this is so, because till date Noida police has not come to any conclusion as to who is the real culprit), is really not acceptable.

Talking about IPL issue, I completely agree with Sanwali that these politicians are double-faced, oops my mistake, they are multi-faced. They just say what they feel is easier to befool the public. The politicians have the habit of up-roaring in the name of Indian values; however they easily mould them in a way they want to and whenever they want.

I feel really ashamed of this society who holds women and their dresses responsible for distracting men. Aren’t the women in Burqas raped? So guys grow up and accept that it’s the filthy minds and not the dresses of women that are corrupting our so-called culture.

Sanwali

Sanwali — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

Your mom must be a great woman as that reflects in your thought process.

Well! i completely agree with you that the things will automatically change when we will stop being rigid at the mind.

Vinod

Vinod — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

When will the man made society and men’s do as i say mentality towards women end? Question is too hard, perhaps impossible, to search an answer for. fairer sex has battled long for the equality and is continuing with the same, how long one never knows.

Everything is done in the name of religion, Political gains, for so called honor and god knows what not. But people with such abhorred thinking need renaissance and overhauling of thought.

Somya

Somya — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

I couldn’t agree more about Indians and esp Indian politicians keeping double moral standards! It’s like PETA activists having a sea food party! They completely deny in their action what they promise in words and it’s a real torture to see the young Indians being governed by not even a single young politician. The double standards seen in both the quoted cases will die their own death with time for if there is one thing Indians are good at, it is to make you believe that they have progressed mentally.

Jayaprashanth

Jayaprashanth — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

@arun

Providing education to these cheerleaders, bar dancers and for that matter prostitutes is a cause that deserves to be appreciated and enforced seriously. But, are these professions not respectable? C’mon these women are earning their bread by working hard. they aren’t stealing or cheating people out of their money. This brings us back to square one. Why shouldn’t these professions, be it cheer leading, or bar dancing or even prostitution, be respected? Why? Nobody seems to try and answer that! I really hope comes along and clears this lingering doubt of mine!

Arun Kumar

Arun Kumar — Sat, 24 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

@ Jayaprashanth:

I never thought of it. What you say is absolutely true. In fact, every profession, that does not harm others, is respectable. I too, have to change a lot, being part of the Indian Culture since birth. Sincere thanks for pointing out my mistake.

Arun Kumar

Arun Kumar — Sun, 25 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

@ Jayaprashanth:

Your comment forced me to analyse. As per what I know, jobs can be of two types: one that involes fun and the other type which involves money at some personal costs such as health. The latter is taken up by people who have no other option to earn money. People working as prostitutes, those working in mines, and bangle factories, etc have no option but to continue with their lives at stake. What I think, that such jobs can lead to serious troubles with one’s body and soul.

Coming back to the topic, I suppose that bar dancing and prostitution, whether by males or females, is totally a job taken up to avoid unemployment. The per cent of people involved in such jobs for fun is very rare. Given a chance, they would rather go for better oppurtunities. Cheerleading, on the hand, also involves glamor and is yet to become a viable job option in India.

The kind of society where we live, prevailing since ages, will take too long to accept these people on what-is basis. People will definately use their services but respecting them is something we have never been taught.

This is what occured to me. Please do correct me if I am wrong.

Farheen Jamal

Farheen Jamal — Wed, 28 May 2008 00:00:00 +0000

india is famous for double standrds. cheerleading is one issue but there are severa l others that need attention.

also the media is playing god these days and the right to information is being miss used by them. sombosy needs to chek them out